Why You Shouldn’t Post on Social Media During a Family Law Case

Sharing life updates on social media has become second nature. Whether it’s a vacation photo, a heartfelt rant, or a celebration with friends, platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok provide a virtual stage to document our lives. But when you’re involved in a family law case—whether it’s divorce, custody, or child support—hitting “post” can be more dangerous than you think.

Here’s why staying off social media during a family law case is one of the smartest moves you can make.

1. Your Posts Can Be Used Against You in Court

This is the golden rule: anything you post online can—and often will—be used as evidence. Screenshots of your rants, photos of your purchases, or comments made in the heat of the moment can all be submitted in court. Even if you delete a post, it doesn’t necessarily disappear forever.

Examples:

• A picture of you on vacation could be used to challenge your claims of financial hardship.

• A post bad-mouthing your ex could be used to question your ability to co-parent respectfully.

• Sharing nightlife photos might be twisted to suggest instability or irresponsible behavior.

2. Privacy Settings Won’t Protect You

Many people think that if their profile is private, they’re safe. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. Judges can order the production of social media content. Friends and mutual contacts might share your posts. Even a brief moment of leniency in your privacy settings can expose sensitive information.

Remember: if you wouldn’t say it in front of a judge, don’t post it online.

3. It Can Hurt Custody and Parenting Time Outcomes

Family courts prioritize the best interests of the child. If your online activity gives the impression that your lifestyle or attitude is not aligned with good parenting, it can seriously hurt your case. Posts that show conflict, substance use, frequent partying, or instability can raise red flags—even if they’re out of context.

Don’t give the opposing side ammunition. Stay silent online to stay strong in court.

4. It Creates Unnecessary Drama

Family law cases are already emotionally charged. Social media often adds fuel to the fire, especially if both parties are active online. Subtle digs, passive-aggressive posts, or venting sessions may feel cathartic in the moment, but they can escalate tensions and complicate negotiations or mediation efforts.

Instead of blowing off steam online, talk to a friend, therapist, or your attorney. Courtrooms don’t reward digital drama.

5. It Can Backfire Financially

If you’re claiming that you can’t pay spousal or child support but your social media shows expensive purchases or lavish outings, your credibility may take a hit. Courts look for honesty and consistency—social media can unintentionally expose contradictions in your claims.

6. Even "Innocent" Posts Can Be Misinterpreted

Something as simple as posting a photo with a new partner, or showing off a new car, can spark conflict or give the impression that your priorities have shifted. It’s not just about what you say—it’s how it could be perceived by your ex, their lawyer, or the judge.

When tensions are high, even your best intentions can be twisted.

What Should You Do Instead?

• Go dark on social media until your case is resolved.

• Talk to your attorney before sharing anything even remotely related to your case.

• Focus on offline support systems to help you cope during this stressful time.

Final Thoughts

In family law, perception is powerful—and social media often tells a story that’s incomplete or misleading. While it may be tempting to vent, defend yourself, or show you’re “doing fine,” the risks far outweigh the benefits.

When in doubt, log out. Protect your case, protect your children, and let your actions speak louder than your status updates.